Before we went to LA we had a 4 day retreat on Sexuality. I thought the speaker did a really good job. Religious life is not a normal life. I think the thing I realized most is I need affection in my life. Then I have to ask How am I going to get that affection? I need deep intimate conversation. I need touch. I know i am a touchy feely guy. I need to find healthy ways. Is hugs enough? Is someone holding my hand enough? Is getting a massage enough? Is playing contact sports helpful? I have to spend time and answer questions like these. I thing I found interesting is there are 12 different ways for intimacy. I am sharing them below.
12 Opportunities for
Intimacy
1.
Genital intimacy (erotic or orgasmic closeness)
2.
Emotional intimacy (being tuned to each other’s
wave length) *
3.
Intellectual intimacy (closeness in the world of
ideas)
4.
Aesthetic intimacy (sharing experiences of
beauty)
5.
Creative intimacy (sharing in acts of creating
together)
6.
Recreational intimacy (relating in experiences
of fun and play)
7.
Work intimacy (the closeness of sharing common
task)
8.
Crisis intimacy (the closeness in coping with
problems/pain)
9.
Conflict intimacy (facing and struggling with
differences)
1. Commitment
intimacy (mutuality derived from common
investment)
1. Spiritual
intimacy (the we-ness in sharing ultimate concerns)
1. Communication intimacy (the source of all
types of true intimacy)
The bottom line is what is going to make me the most loving and most free I can be? What are my deepest desires?
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